There is always tomorrow.

We were up late last night, Brian and I. The daily grind of motherhood and my own shortcomings were heavy on my mind. Thankfully, my husband listens, cares, and helps me see my own blind spots.

I was lamenting that I wished I could just start the day over. Not because of my kids’ behavior, but because of mine. Can I have a second chance to get in a better frame of mind, to respond differently to my children, to love better, please? It’s not the big stuff, I sweat, it’s the every day. Because everyday happens over and over and over.

After talking philosophically and theologically about it, we talked practical things I could do to help the cause, so to speak. Nothing earth shattering, really. Just small changes in our day that I can implement. Will they work? I don’t know, we’ll see. I lamented that I wished I could just go back and start the day over with those ideas. You know, I want to know right now if it is going to help. He said, there’s always tomorrow.

So today this is what I’m doing.

1. I am choosing to accept grace and forgiveness for my own sins and shortcomings, and not dwell on them.

2. I am thanking God that He is gracious to reveal my own heart to me.

3. I am taking small, practical steps to die to self today.

Dying to self in motherhood is a daily battle. Sometimes it is a minute by minute battle. I am thankful God’s grace will sustain me today.


  1. And now tomorrow is today. I will pray for you today, Johanna. I’ve certainly had many days where I’ve felt the same way. It is a daily battle but clearly you are intentional about fighting it and that’s a huge blessing for your family.

    • Being aware of the struggle is HALF the battle, Jo. I am reading A Woman’s Wisdom, and she says that half the reason that we fail is because we really don’t know our own weaknesses…and most women don’t want to know. Don’t despair. :)

      • Johanna says:

        Thanks, Ladies! I agree, Sarah, half the battle is knowing there is a battle… now to find solutions. :) Thanks for our prayers!

  2. It is nice to know that I’m not the only one that goes through those kind of days. Thank you for having the courage to talk about these struggles on your blog.

  3. I second Annie—thanks for honestly sharing from your heart! I have days like those probably far too often than I’d like admit,but yes–God’s grace and forgiveness is UNENDING and tomorrow is another day, a new beginning! (I’m also blessed to have a husband who listens, cares, and offers practical and godly advice too–wonderful isn’t it?). Hugs to you!

  4. Lindsay Reimer says:

    I wrote these 3 thoughts down to dwell on today. Thanks.

  5. “It’s not the big stuff, I sweat, it’s the every day. Because everyday happens over and over and over.”

    That’s it!! But, I’ve been having some difficulty with making Tomorrow better, and it seems to be a repeat of the frustrations of Yesterday– even if on the surface the day looks different. I know that doesn’t make sense, but your line I quoted was too perfect for me to not say something. Maybe I just need to keep reading here (I’ve been trying to “catch up”) and I’ll find some more direction. Thanks!!

    • Johanna says:

      Louise, I can completely relate. There have been times when I have been like that for days, and even weeks, at a time. Not dwelling on the past and focusing on one small change at a time makes all the difference.
      SO glad you have you reading along. Glad to have your part of our little “community.” :)


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