We hit a rough patch with my oldest. For several days, it seemed every little thing would escalate into something bigger. One second, things were perfectly fine. The next, we were having a meltdown or an outburst of anger.
When our children do this, they are usually craving for our attention. It is their way of telling us that their little world is topsy-turvy and they need us. My children need me. Not just the mom-on-duty me, but the real me. Not the me that is answering their hundreds of questions while mentally writing a to-do list. I need to tune into their little troubles. However small and insignificant they seem to us, they are big to them.
So the two of us headed out alone. We went to the library and took our time picking out books. We went to Starbucks, coffee and milk in hand, we sat and read our library books. Just the two of us. Having fun and enjoying each other. We finished our afternoon off with an errand to the grocery store. He was all gentlemanly. He didn’t want me to put a single bag in the trunk. “I’ll do it, Mom.”
He came home with a new feeling of belonging. He knew he had had all of me for an afternoon. I came home having forgotten all the issues of the last few days. I had taken the time to remember who he was, and all the little things that I love about him.
A one-time outing doesn’t necessarily solve all the issues, but it often solves a lot. Remembering that they are little people, just like us, that need attention, can go a long way to bringing things back to right.
It’s easy to get so caught up in the tasks of motherhood that we forget that mothering is about people, relationships, and souls.
Moms, if your kids have been having an extra rough time lately, they might just need you. All of you.