What Toys Should We Keep?

Some of you may have seen over on my Facebook page that my husband’s grandfather passed away this weekend. (If you aren’t following me there, I would love for you to go over there and click ‘Like‘ 😉 ). We will be traveling this week for his funeral. I would appreciate your prayers that our kids would travel well and for comfort for the family. If I am a bit quiet around here, please understand. I will still be posting, but not as much as usual. Thanks for understanding.


I think most of us realize that Limiting Toys Helps Our Kids, but sometimes the problem is we don’t know what to get rid of. There is no perfect way, and much of it depends on personalities, family interests, and even family values. Today, I am sharing five things to consider when deciding which toys stay and which ones go. 

We often end up with a few stragglers here and there, but keeping these considerations in mind really helps me decide on what toys to keep.

1. Avoid Over-Stimulating Toys.

Toys with loud noises and flashing lights are usually over-stimulating to a child. This is especially true for babies, and yet the majority of toys you see for infants are these types of toys.

Not only do these types of toys over-stimulate a child’s brain, they also usually simply expect a child to sit and look at it. Oh, sure, it might be a boat to play with, but really, the goal of the toy is to hear all the songs and gimmicks and to see the bright, colorful flashing lights. The child is left with little need to do anything but sit and be entertained.

2. Avoid Toys that are Not Part of a Collective Group.

These types of toys will usually also be part of the over-stimulating category making it really worth getting rid of! If you have many random toys that don’t work well with anything else, they are probably not going to be played with much. Dolls with their clothes and accessories, a kitchen with dishes and vegetables, small vehicles, etc, are all examples of groups of toys. They all go together and work well together. An array of random toys adds clutter and is difficult for a child to play with.

I observe this in the church nursery all the time. In the two-year-old nursery, I love to watch and analyze what kids do. They come in and dump every single toy out onto the floor, and then without fail they leave the toys and go get books and puzzles. This is mainly because these toys are not really groups of anything. A lot of random toys, however nice they are, are difficult for a child to know what to do with beyond the initial few minutes. (And, yes, I realize that it is probably strange that I observe and analyze children when I am on nursery duty, but I find it fascinating. 😉 )

3. Choose Interactive Toys.

The kind of toys that are best for a child’s brain are also good for their motor skills, and will occupy more hours of play. Interactive toys allow a child to decide how to play. It requires them to talk and narrate the happenings, build something, and create either an object or a scenario.

Types of toys that are interactive: building toys (blocks, Legos, etc.), dolls, stuffed animals, kitchen and food, vehicles, trains, etc.

One note on these types of toys: You should probably consider picking just a few of these. It is difficult for a child to create anything if he has just a few pieces from many different sets. Choose what you want and then start adding to it. This is also helpful for family members as they know what the child has and can give additional pieces to complement what you already have for birthdays.

4. Choose Toys That Cross Ages and Gender.

If the toys can be enjoyed by several age levels than you know you have a keeper of a toy!  For instance, Olivia (at two) enjoys our wooden blocks by building a tower and knocking it down. Stefan (at four) enjoys building forts or cities with the blocks. Stefan has also just gotten into Legos and, seeing as his Dad enjoys them as an adult, I am quite certain that he will still enjoy them at ten. :)

It is difficult to keep up with toys if you have to have an entire new set every time your child reaches a new milestone. Great, quality, interactive toys will grow with the child.

5. Choose Toys that Mix Well.

My son builds a city with his blocks, and then drives his cars around the city (or build a ramp for the cars 😉 ). The kids will cook at the kitchen and then feed their dolls. Stefan often mixes all his toy sets together in very imaginative ways.

Using these considerations as a type of sieve helps me look at toys more objectively. Each time we do a toy purge, I use this as my guideline for what to get rid of. It has really helped to not only curb the toys in the house, but to also make sure we keep the good ones!

Your turn! What guidelines do you use for determining what toys you keep and which ones you purge?


  1. Annie Foster says:

    I have appreciated your posts. It has given me a lot to think about.
    We just bought a big box of wooden blocks for James at a garage sale. He enjoys knocking down creations Joel makes and chewing on them as well. Joel was a lego fanatic while growing up. So the whole collection (fills two 18 gallon totes) will go to him in installments (and if Lord willing to our other kids).
    I do have one question regarding toys. James’s grandparents and other parties love giving him thingst toys and such. What can I say? That I am going to get rid of all the toys with lights and sounds?

    Your Sister in Christ,

    • Annie, well, I’ve been thinking about how to answer. :) I wouldn’t get rid of everything. Maybe at some point you could talk to them about what types of toys you prefer. I probably, though, would just determine a basket or bin for the “random” toys and use that as bin as my limit for how much to keep. If something doesn’t fit in that, we have to get rid of something. That way you aren’t getting rid of everything, but you are still keeping a handle on how much. This will also help to regularly purge things that are no longer age appropriate. Hope that helps. :)

      That is awesome that you found wooden blocks at a garage sale! Perfect. He will get hours of play from those!

  2. I don’t have any guidelines to share at this point, but I want to thank you for sharing your tips and ideas! I wish I had realized the benefits of limiting toys much earlier in my parenting!! I have 6 children, my oldest being 9 and our house has waaaay too many toys! It’s very overwhelming, for all of us!
    We are going to be doing a big purge soon though! We are moving, so I’m getting rid of a lot of stuff (not just toys either). I definitely want to simplify our lives in any and every way we can. Thanks for these ideas, they will surely help me!!

    Blessings to you!
    (Oh, I found you over at the Allume blog commenting on the Small Blogger series)

    • Thanks so much for stopping by, Sarah! I can imagine with six kids that you would have a lot of toys. I hope your upcoming move goes well! We’ve moved a lot so I know what a lot of work it can be!

  3. Toys that grow with the child are especially important to me.

    I tend to get rid of toys that are easily breakable/not constructed well. No sense in having them around if they’re just going to be broken in a few days.

  4. Vachement attrayant, mon petit doigt me dit que cet
    article devrait intéresser un pote

  5. Bon je n’ai pas eu le temps de terminer de regarder cependant
    je repasse dans la journée

  6. Un bon remerciement Ă  l’administrateur du site internet

  7. Un іntense bravo Ă  l’auteŐœr de ce site internet

  8. Magnifique post : pĂ©rennise cߋmme ça


  1. […] How limiting toys helps your kids and What toys should we keep? […]

Speak Your Mind