When it’s time to ditch the plan.

We have had an unusual couple of weeks. First we had a fun and full week with out of town family. Stefan was especially excited as his cousin, and great friend, was here for the week. We came off that week and headed right into a week of traveling and seeing lots of extended family as we honored the memory of my husband’s 95-year-old grandfather.

I am very grateful that two of my kids met him, and we have this picture to show them when they get older.

While we were there we stayed at a wonderful Bed and Breakfast in a tiny town with a population of less than 600 people. It was exquisite. The food was delicious. Breakfast even came with dessert. What is not to like about a place that serves ice cream for dessert at breakfast? Seriously. If you are ever in southwest Wisconsin, you should try it out.

My kids sat in car seats a lot. In five days, they were in car seats for 1400 miles of driving. They saw people they loved. They greeted lots of people that they didn’t really know. They lost sleep. And they handled it all amazingly well. They had fun, too.

Then came Monday.

Need I say more? Re-entry was hard. And I unwisely had a long to-do list of things I wanted to get done to get back in the groove of things. Olivia seemed to suddenly have separation anxiety problems. I could understand if we were with people, but we were in our home. I couldn’t even go into another room without her crying and coming to find me. Our house isn’t that big. (Someone tell me. Is this normal?)

And the inevitable, “Can we have ice cream for breakfast?” question was asked. More than once. Did I expect anything else? :)

By Monday evening, I knew I need to come up with a different plan. Or rather, I needed to ditch plans altogether and just be with my kids. This is, after all, one of the huge privileges I get to have as a stay-at-home Mom. I actually have the option of ditching the plan. That is a blessing I don’t take lightly.

So Tuesday we spent our day building forts.

We put a blanket and lots of pillows on the living room floor and read books.

We spent the entire day together. Enjoying this place we call home, and these people we call family.

Because sometimes the plan needs to be ditched. The to-do list needs to be set aside for another day. And we need to just enjoy being together. They need me. Whether they need cuddles and books read to them at 2, or they need to talk about a friend who dumped them for a more popular person at 12, I will be there for them.

And you know what? The day was much more productive than any other day where I cross a lot of things off my to-do list. Just a different kind of productivity.

Do you ever need to ditch the plan and just be?


  1. I love this post! When our kids were younger and I ditched the to-do list, I would often feel guilty. How crazy is that? I agree that there is nothing more important than being available for our children when they need us. Now, I look back and treasure those moments and feel bad that I spent even a second feeling guilty for putting aside my to-do lists. I am so happy to see that you realize this while your sweet kiddos are still so young because they grow up so fast and our time with them is precious.

    • I’m so glad to have moms like you that are a little further down the road of motherhood to remind me that these years go by quickly. :)

  2. Elva Farrell says:

    I agree 100% with you!! And this isn’t just applicable to being with your children. I have put aside a planned Bible study at ladies’ meetings to address an urgent question or comment that someone has brought up. It is so worth it to “strike the iron while it is hot”.
    I love your blog, Johanna.

    • What a good reminder that it can apply to other things as well! Thank you for reading. I truly appreciate every reader that takes the time to read here. :)

  3. Ditching the plan can be the best feeling in the world. Glad you’re back safely and I hope you all get back into the swing of things. And for what it’s worth, my daughter is always more clingy and wants more attention after we’ve spent time with family. She gets so much attention when we’re with family that I think it just takes some time to adjust back to normalcy.

    • OH, that is so good to know, Steph. I really hope it doesn’t last too long, but in the mean time I am just enjoying the extra together time. :)

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