When Some Is Just Right

I’ve mentioned here before that I tend to be a procrastinating perfectionist. In other words, I simply put things off when I don’t feel I have the time to do it the way I feel it should be done or at least how I would like for it to be done.

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A close relation to the the procrastinating perfectionist is the all-or-nothing person. And, boy, do I struggle with that as well.

I’ve been mulling over this concept for some months and only in the last few weeks have I realized that I needed to make “some” a goal for this year. What I mean is that I need to fully embrace doing some of any number of things and accepting and rejoicing that this is just right for me right now.

I can’t do all the reading I would like, but I can do some.

I can’t write as much as I’d like, but I can do some.

I can’t get outside with the kids as much as I would like, but I can do some.

I can’t embrace hospitality as much as I would like, but I can do some.

The list goes on.

I’ve had this tendency to not do anything at all when I can’t embrace it fully.

If I can’t put 100% into an activity or event, if I can’t regularly schedule an event, if I can only give 5 or 10 minutes to it, I just put it off and don’t do it at all.

This year, my commitment is to do some. I’m considering actually printing off the word ‘something’ and sticking it on my fridge to remind me. Do something. Even if it’s small. Even if it’s just 5 minutes here and there. Do it.

I want to work on a few projects this year, but the thought of not being able to really invest the time I would like has held me back. This year, I’m committed to doing a little bit and using the small bits and pieces of time to read, educate myself, learn, write, and any other thing that comes up that I need or want to do.

I refuse to let the year go by without making some progress simply because I can’t put all the time into things that I’d like to.

I didn’t necessarily pick a word for the year like so many people do, but I think that if I did, this would be the concept I would be picking. I’m striving this year to let go of my perfect ideal, make the most of the little bits of time, and take tiny steps toward achieving my goals.

Instead of frittering away 10 minutes here and there on Facebook or something else non productive I’m striving to use those 10 minutes to do a little towards my bigger goals.

Admittedly, it doesn’t feel like much when I’m doing it, but each little bit adds up. (It’s how I wrote this blog post actually).ย  I hope that it allows me to read more and write more here which is one of my goals for this year.

I’m committed to believing that some is not just okay or good enough, but that it is just right for me in this season of life.

How do you use little bits of time to accomplish things? I’d love to hear your tips.

Comments

  1. Jessie Wittman says:

    Thanks for writing this. It’s exactly a concept I needed to hear. Before kids I could “binge” on projects and goals โ€” go and go and go until I had it exactly how I wanted it. Not so anymore. But I think it takes a more virtuous soul to accomplish things in small increments over a long period of time, self-control, perseverance, courage, fortitude, patience… yay for yet another thing in parenting to conform us to the image of Christ! I’ll join you in embracing ‘something’ this year. :)

    • Binge projects–totally know what you mean, and yes, those days are long gone! It takes learning to see the long road and not just immediate results. Life lessons in motherhood! Glad you’re joining me!

  2. Becky Rulapaugh says:

    Thank you! I needed this this morning! Going to get moving on “some” right now!

  3. Hmm, we sound very much alike!! (Procrastinating perfectionist and all or nothing). I am going to make this my motto this year as well. Thanks for the inspiration!

  4. Crissy Lodmell says:

    ME TOO! I prefer to call it “Paralyzing Perfectionism”. You are not alone. :) (I’m a friend of Donna’s).

  5. Oh I needed this!! Sometimes I feel almost physically paralyzed at the thought of ALL I would like to get done (reading, teaching, learning to play the violin, writing, running, biking, perfect home, etc) so thank-you so much for the reminder that getting”something” done is probably the only way of getting anything done at this stage in life :)

    • I think that this is something that many of us can relate to in this stage of life. Little bits, little bits… I have to remind myself continually!

  6. Yep. This is me. I’m constantly reminding myself that something is better than nothing.

  7. I am working on this this year. It’s easy to lose the day to little things that don’t matter, but there are really good ways to use little pieces of time!

  8. I can completely relate to this as I am a procrastinating perfectionist too. Identifying that tendency has helped some, but I still struggle. I’ve even stopped blogging completely since I was frustrated that I’m not able to do it as often as I’d like to or because I’ve felt like I’m not meeting certain expectations I had for myself.

    I love what you said and it really hit home for me: “I refuse to let the year go by without making some progress simply because I canโ€™t put all the time into things that Iโ€™d like to.” That statement and the entire post encourages me to just jump back in (to blogging, reading, etc.) and do something! =) Thanks for this great reminder.

    • Oh, I know what you mean, and yes, I’ve “given up” completely on things because of this…but I’m trying to learn to grasp the bits and pieces of the day. I do hope you start blogging again!

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